"And don't be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God's place for you. Live and Obey and Love and Believe right there. God not your marital status defines you." I Corinthians 7:17 msg

Singleness seems to place a negative stigma on women in our society as in the Old Testament, in Isaiah 4 it reveals that the same desperation for marriage existed in that day. The scripture reveals that there were seven men to one woman because of the many men murdered during war and captivity. The women were in such despair of being single they expressed themselves in this manner, "On that day seven women will seize one man, saying, we will eat our own bread and provide our own clothing. Just let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace." Isaiah 4:1

Singleness is not a disgrace but a gift from God. Until a person is truly single they can never be ready for marriage. Marriage does not define nor does it complete anyone, it is actually singleness that makes you whole. In I Corinthians 7 Paul was forced to answer these questions most likely presented to him by women who wanted answers concerning the issue of singleness and marriage. Paul who spoke with men exclusively took the time to give his perception on this matter. Paul in essence is saying that singleness is God's original plan, but because sexual immorality is so common, that each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. But Paul expressed that I wish all people were like me in singleness, but each person has his own gift from God.

We focus more on interrelationships more than intra-relationships. Until you can be single, marriage will never work for you. You have to work on you just imagine this, the person you are now would you marry you and all your issues? If you can't put up with it why expect someone else to, we have to deal with the issues before we are locked into marriage. Dr. Myles Munroe said it best that for the most part "many women meet men who are in heat and not vision and purpose they are in passion and we think it's love." We should be careful of who we marry even God doesn't join Himself to everyone. Dr. Munroe gives us three principles for singleness......1. Singleness is the most important state of human development. 2. Singleness is the foundation of God's design for the human family. 3. God began the human family with one single human being not a couple.

You don't marry to improve yourself, singleness is your foundation to long lasting relationships. Never enter a relationship in despair but approach relationship with discovery not with a mindset that relationships improve you but that relationships expose to you what you need to work on in you, not the other individual but you. Singleness exist in marriage because every individual is responsible for their own actions not the other individual. You have to be accountable for you, the one single person, married or unmarried.

Never let a lapse in time be your determinator for marriage let your singleness determine that. Where you are right now is God's place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. Married or Unmarried, God, not your marital status defines your life. Live life in the situation the Lord has assigned you to.